Self Esteem Archives - Page 5 of 7 - Kathleen Hassan

Daring to Disagree: Taking the Sting Out of Queen Bees & Wannabees

For most of my life, I was a people pleaser; afraid to rock the boat and speak my truth. But thankfully because I walk my talk and practice what I preach, I have dared to go deep within and have found my voice and my true power. As a result, I am no longer willing to acquiesce to the opinion or acclaimed wisdom of others when I just don’t agree – even if that other person is a best-selling author and her book was the basis of a hit movie. I recently attended a program by the author of Queen Bees & Wannabees who spoke about girls and bullying. I walked out of the auditorium feeling uneasy and the energy in the room was palpably heavy. The woman I went with, who also works in this field, took voracious notes and loved it. I wrestled with these feelings for days [...]

By Kathleen| 2009-01-28T11:14:15-05:00 January 28th, 2009|

Heal Our Young Women ~ Heal the World

While millions of Americans journied to our nation’s capital to be a part of history in the making, while workers watched the inauguration online through CNN & Facebook, while people from around the world observed the 44th President of the United States of America take his oath of office and pledge his allegiance and service to our great nation, many girls across the country still were unable to shift their focus away from their own inner battles to embrace the power of this day. In the middle of watching the streaming video from CNN in partnership with Facebook, I received not one, but five emails from teen girls who were all asking me advice on how to be thin, how to be more confident, how to get a guy to like them, how to stop being so shy and quiet – and basically how to be anyone else but who [...]

By Kathleen| 2009-01-20T11:16:39-05:00 January 20th, 2009|

We Are One ~ Yes We Can!

I am in awe of the entire inauguration. My hope is that parents use this as an opportunity to open up meaningful communication with their kids and will focus on the underlying message of love and faith that was so clearly demonstrated throughout each speech, song and prayer. My greatest concern and greatest hope for our nation is in the hands of the young women of our country. It astounds me that during the inauguration I still received emails from teen girls who are struggling with inner conflict. Until we help these young women to heal, there is no possible way for them to espouse what is to me the greatest quote of today’s proceedings, “love your neighbor as you love yourself.” I watched part of it through CNN and Facebook and am astounded by this new technology which allowed me to be part of something bigger than just me [...]

By Kathleen| 2009-01-20T10:17:42-05:00 January 20th, 2009|

Getting a Boyfriend – Even if You’re Shy

This video is a response to an email I received from a young woman named Jennifer. Jennifer is 21 and feels like there is something wrong with her because she’s never had a boyfriend. Her self-esteem and self-confidence is at an all time low and she’s afraid it’s her fault because she’s shy. She ask, “How can I be OK with who I am and not care what other people think about me?” In this video, I help Jennifer understand that her beliefs are creating her reality. A belief is just a thought that we’ve played over and over again in our minds and accepted it as our truth. What you think about you attract. And if you think that it’s not OK to be quiet and shy and that there is something wrong with you, then you’ll only attract more situations that make you feel inferior for being who [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T14:57:10-05:00 September 13th, 2008|

Dove Self-Esteem Fund – Saying “YES” to What You Want

Last year I wrote a monthly column for a rural high school magazine called “Ambition”. The editor said it was a start-up and didn’t have any money yet to pay her writers but was hoping that would change soon. Well, I wrote the articles last year and it was a good discipline to write regularly and with a topic and focus… however, as far as exposure goes, I never even got one email response and no business referrals. So this year the editor contacted me again and gave me the deadline for the fall submission and I asked her about getting paid. She said she was still not making a profit and couldn’t pay her writers. Hmmmm… I thought about it and prayed about it and then asked God to give me a clear sign as to what I should do. A couple of days later, I was feeling a [...]

By Kathleen| 2008-08-18T11:21:47-05:00 August 18th, 2008|

Teen Girls: Claiming Your Place & Power in the World

Hey Girls… in the archives of this blog, there’s an article I wrote about how to create your own Sacred Space or meditation area/room. Well, now that I’ve gone high tech and have become a You Tuber, I created a video and give you a glimpse of my own Sacred Space. In this crazy world of BIGGER, BETTER, FASTER, MORE it can be very challenging to sit still and listen to your own inner truth. You may be tempted to just say “Screw it” and take short cuts or do what everybody else says you “should” do. But when you take the time to create an actual place where you’ve carved out to be still and listen, and then go there often and just sit and listen, you’ll eventually get really good at trusting your gut and you’ll intuitively know how to be and what to do in any situation. [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T14:57:47-05:00 July 28th, 2008|

Teen Girls – How to Attract the Right Guy

Today’s video is about how to “attract” the right guy into your life. I want to thank Isabel who emailed me with her powerful question/challenge about boys.

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T14:58:44-05:00 July 17th, 2008|

My Favorite F-Word

This video is an entry into a More Magazine Contest about your favorite F-Word! Jamie Lee Curtis proposed this contest to More Mag and there is an entire feature article about her in the June issue. In her More Magazine article, the author delved deep and asked Jamie Lee to explain her deep transformation and how she got to where she is at 50. Jamie Lee’s response? “Sobriety. It’s the single most important thing I’ve ever done.” That has to be one of the most courageous things I have ever read. Jamie Lee is such an inspiration and I am so excited about sharing my Favorite F-Word and the secret to a life of serenity and pure joy…

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T14:58:50-05:00 June 28th, 2008|

The Talk Before “The Talk”

One of the most powerful, if not the most important relationship in a girl’s life is the one she has with her mother. The way a mother and daughter interact and communicate affects and shapes a girl’s sense of self and often forms the basis for the way a girl interacts in every other relationship throughout her life. But very little forethought goes into the framework of this most important relationship and as a result, it just sort of evolves and morphs and oftentimes escalates into an all out war. I get emails from girls all across the country asking me questions like “how do i talk to my mom about boys? Whenever i try and bring up the topic i get nervous. Its like i can never have guys as friends or more without my mom over-reacting.” I also get complaints from frustrated girls who tell me that their [...]

By Kathleen| 2008-02-14T11:35:58-05:00 February 14th, 2008|

Finding Your Voice: Taking a Stand

Dear Kathleen, As a teenage girl, I feel too much pressure to be beautiful, skinny, and fashionable. First of all, I know it is pretty normal to find faults with my body. The thing that bugs me about it is how much people look into it. Most of the time, the people who are being affected by the “size two” plague, as I call it, are not overweight. I am a little overweight, but not to the point that a good exercise program won’t get rid of it. Yet, I see girls and women who are thinner than me going through extremes to be even thinner. I see them severely dieting, using weight-loss pills, going into treatment centers for slimming and trimming products, even becoming anorexic and bulimic. It is not only harmful for them mentally, but it is very harmful to them physically. Fashion is also becoming too essential. [...]

By Kathleen| 2008-01-10T11:39:42-05:00 January 10th, 2008|