Stay Where You Are – So I Can Feel Safe

There’s a certain sense of security and camaraderie in the struggle of life. But what happens when someone decides to let go of the struggle and step into the joy and flow of life? Do people like you better when you play it safe and play the victim of circumstances? When someone decides to step out of the role they’ve been playing and makes a bold move towards change, you’d think that everyone would stand up and cheer! But more often then not, people try to put you back where they think you belong so they can feel safe. Misery loves company is an expression that, although few of us would admit, really does make us feel a little bit better about our own lives if someone else is struggling right along with us. The Mobile Effect Imagine everyone in your family and all of your closest friends are all hanging on a mobile. No matter how functional or dysfunctional each individual or family unit may be, each person keeps the entire structure in balance. But when one dares to take themselves off the hook and opts for something different – even if that something different is fabulous – everyone feels the shift and the whole unit is off kilter and out of whack. The good news is that everyone will eventually find a new sense of balance. The bad news is that the time in between can sometimes send the bold adventurer, who disrupted the status quo, clambering back into old patterns and habits of people pleasing while putting themselves back on the hook! I recently made such a bold move in my own life and am living out my wildest dreams! I relocated my life and business to Naples, Florida and I’m having the time of my life. I’ve been amazed, but not surprised by some of the comments I’ve received from family and friends: – you bitch! – must be nice – we get it – you’re happy – I’m ignoring your posts on Facebook – they’re way too positive – how come your life is so serene and I can barely get through the day? Sometimes I’ve found myself holding back so I don’t come off as bragging. Then I remember the quote by Marianne Williamson from her book “A Return to Love,” Your playing small does not serve the world. There is nothing enlightened about shrinking so that other people won’t feel insecure around you. Then I remember that I’ve been here before and that this too shall pass. I’ve been on a healing and spiritual journey for the last 20 years and I’ve had a lot of practice in letting go and trusting the guidance of God. I know that following that inner guidance is what truly serves the world and I’m willing to step into the unknown and light the way for others. If the opinions of others have kept you stuck where you are, if you’ve been dreaming about making a change in your life – be it a bold, life-altering move, or a tiny shift in your daily habits or routines, one of the best ways to step confidently in the direction of your dreams is to create a strong support system around you. Create a Strong Support System Here are a few ways to get the support you need to make your move and make your mark on the world: – Start a Mastermind Group. Gather up 4-6 people who are all ready to step boldly in the direction of their dreams. Commit to meet regularly to brainstorm ideas, encourage and cheer each other on and hold each other accountable for action items. – Find a Goal Buddy. Establish a partnership and commitment with one person who shares similar goals as you, such as – getting in shape, writing a book, quitting smoking, etc. – Join a 12-Step Recovery Group. It’s not only alcoholics who work the 12 steps. There are recovery groups for over-eaters, over-spenders, gamblers, sex-addicts and co-dependents. Join a group, go to meetings, get a sponsor and work the 12 steps. – Hire a Coach! A coach is like a personal trainer for the mind and will help you gain clarity and focus to direct your thoughts towards your goals and away from what you don’t want. The Only One Who Likes Change is a Wet Baby! Change doesn’t have to be as hard or scary. The right support around you – to hold your hand and cheer you on – will remind you that you are safe and powerful. Nothing Changes if Nothing Changes! Are you ready to take a baby step or a giant leap in the direction of your dreams? Maybe you’d like to… => start a business => find new love => get a new career (or a raise) => lose weight => get your child(ren) to behave better => or build your self-esteem & self-confidence No matter what you’d like to change or achieve, the secrets to success are the same… #1: Get clear. As specifically as possible, decide what you want. The more clear you are on what you want to have in your life, the more likely you are to achieve it. #2: Get perspective. Most people don’t tell anyone what they want or what they are struggling with and because of that they don’t get an outside perspective. #3: Get support. Very few people (if any) achieve anything great alone. Sports stars have teammates and coaches. Be willing to ask the people in your life to support you. As my holiday gift to you, I am offering a substantial discount on a one hour Laser Coaching Session. Sessions typically cost $150, but by using the Discount Code GRACE during checkout, you’ll pay only $100 — that’s a 33% savings! AND as an added bonus, if you decide to continue with ongoing monthly coaching, I will apply that $100 towards your first month of coaching! In our coaching session we’ll work together to… => Create a crystal clear vision for ‘ultimate success’ so you know exactly what you want, where you’re headed, and what you need to do to make it happen. => Uncover hidden challenges that may be sabotaging your ability to make changes that last or that are slowing down your progress => Leave this session renewed, re-energized, and inspired to finally achieve the change you seek- once and for all If you’re ready to make 2012 your best year yet… click here to purchase your Laser Coaching Session NOW! Happy Holidays & Here’s to becoming Your Very Best YOU! I’m not bragging… but here’s what living your dreams looks and feels like!!!