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Warning! Gratitude Will Change Your Life

I used to roll my eyes and scoff at all those self-help gurus who talked about gratitude being the key to transformation. Like a scratched record that skips and plays the same line over and over again, "yeah but" was the story I told myself for most of my life. "Yeah but" they didn't have the kind of traumatic childhood that I had... "Yeah but" it's easy to be grateful when you've already got it all. blah blah blah. That is, until I realized that it's absolutely true. Gratitude really is the key that unlocks our potential and unleashes the power that can move us from poor me to PROSPERITY! Who doesn't want that? We all say we want a fabulous life, but for some reason, very few have the courage and fortitude to really go for it. Why is that? Staying stuck in a rut of self-pity and "yeah [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T13:54:08+00:00 November 20th, 2012|

iCoach – Integrity

This week's edition of iCoach is about integrity - learning how to integrate your inner life with your outer life and having your insides match your outsides. Truth, honor, values - getting clear about what your deepest values are and then making sure your actions (outer life) match your innermost truth of who you are. Unless we make the time to clarify our values and take the time to turn inward and explore our inner life, we will always feel in conflict with ourselves.

By Kathleen| 2019-04-24T13:34:45+00:00 October 30th, 2012|

Bullied Teen Commits Suicide: A Cry for Help Goes Unheard

In September, Amanda Todd posted a video to YouTube entitled My Story: Struggling, bullying, suicide and self harm. Her last words in the very last frame of the video said "I have nobody... I need someone." Five weeks later, Amanda was found dead in her home in Vancouver, Canada and the coroner's investigation reports that the 15-year-old took her own life. There are no words to convey how sad and tragic this is. Ironically, October is Anti-Bullying Month and just yesterday was proclaimed "International Day of the Girl -- a date on the annual calendar set aside to advocate for girls' rights" and CNN ran an article "To my 15-year-old self': Things I wish I'd known" with beautiful and inspirational messages from highly prominent women to their 15-year-old self, offering advice that they wished someone had said to them when they were only fifteen. Sadly, none of that advice was [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T13:55:40+00:00 October 12th, 2012|

Mindfulness: You have to pay attention to your own thoughts in order to change them

"If you always think what you’ve always thought... then you’ll always get what you’ve always got." ~ Kathleen Hassan We've all heard it said, "change your thoughts, change your life." But you cannot possibly change your thoughts if you're not even aware of what is going on beneath the surface. There is a HUGE difference between being mindful and having your mind full. In our culture of "bigger, better, faster, more" and striving to get ahead, most of us are not even aware of just how full our mind can be with hidden beliefs that govern our lives without our knowing or consent. Just this week alone, I had 3 coaching clients who were facing a particular challenge. Each of them were entirely different scenarios, yet all of them found resolution by the same methodology when I asked them this simple question "So what does that mean?" Every time they [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T13:56:45+00:00 October 12th, 2012|

Teens and Social Anxiety

Let’s face it, hardly anyone enjoys walking into a roomful of strangers and many of us would rather isolate than deal with the dreaded small talk. Yet, ironically all of us are longing for a deeper connection to others, to find “our people” - the ones who like us for who we are and who share similar interests. You might think today’s teens, who were born wired and woven into the fabric of social networking would have no problem making those connections. Yet hiding behind a computer screen or a phone is vastly different than walking into that room and many teens have lost the knack or have never even been taught the art of small talk and breaking the ice. Add to that the epidemic of bullying and the fear of others’ opinions or becoming a target of others’ negative attention and many teens today have become paralyzed with [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T13:57:37+00:00 August 16th, 2012|

Who the Hell Do You Think You Are? How to Reclaim Your Power

Even the most successful people in the world, if they are truly honest, will admit to moments of self-doubt and insecurity. Just the other night, during an interview on Oprah’s Next Chapter, Lady Gaga admitted that there have been times - even now amidst all her fame, fortune and 21 million Twitter followers, that she has felt totally worthless. So who the hell does she think she is? On occasion - nobody. Recently my friend and colleague, Dr. Robyn Silverman wrote an outstanding blog post detailing the obstacles that prevent many women from becoming powerful leaders. Nestled smack dab in the middle of her list of seven self-sabotaging stumbling blocks that keep women playing small, #4 jumped out at me, grabbed me by the throat in a choke-hold and it wouldn’t let go until I stopped, looked at it and then wrote about it. 4. The ‘who the heck do [...]

By Kathleen| 2012-03-20T16:49:55+00:00 March 20th, 2012|

Princess Swagger: Empowered or Entitled?

Yesterday was International Women's Day and the social media sites were buzzing with posts and tweets celebrating and recognizing the "sheroes" who inspire and empower us and the role models and leaders who change our world. However, amidst all that woman-power, I can't help but wonder if the brave women who fought for our rights and who continuously strive for gender equality had Princess Swagger in mind as the end result for all of their determination and dedication. Little Sophia Grace Brownlee got the opportunity of a lifetime when she got to sing her own original song "Princess Swagger" on the Ellen Degeneres Show recently. in case you've been living under a rock, Sophia Grace and her little cousin Rosie have become overnight media sensations since their first appearance on Ellen last year. They were discovered on YouTube rapping to Nicki Minaj's song, Super Bass. The next thing you know, [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T14:00:04+00:00 March 8th, 2012|

Society… We Have a Problem Here

Has our world gone totally and utterly mad? There has been much reaction to the reemergence of Chris Brown from woman beater to grammy-winning star, but probably the most shocking and frightening have been the tweets and posts from young women. You can click on the link above to see all the responses, but here are a few: Call me crazy butttt I would let Chris Brown beat me up anyyyy day O.K. YOU'RE CRAZY! Everyone shut up about Chris Brown being a woman beater... Shiiiittt he can beat me up all night if he wants ARE YOU SHIIIITTTING ME? I don't know why Rhianna complained. Chris Brown could beat me anytime he wanted to. SERIOUSLY? YOU DON'T KNOW WHY SHE COMPLAINED? Attention Girls! Domestic violence is not hot... even if you think he is! Unfortunately these controversial and contrarian comments did exactly what these girls wanted them to do [...]

By Kathleen| 2012-02-16T11:24:05+00:00 February 16th, 2012|

Ain’t It Shocking What… Drugs Can Do

100+ people die every day from drug overdoses who aren’t Whitney Houston. Yes, I am saddened by the loss of such a beautiful and talented woman. Yes, I was moved to tears by the comments and tribute to her at the Grammy's this evening. And yes, her voice and songs inspired me and were such an integral part of the music of my generation. But no, I am not surprised at all and I can't help but feel like here we go again. Another public, over-the-top spectacle over one person who lost their life due to addiction, when so many ordinary nobody's lose their battle with drugs and alcohol every single day. According to the US Department of Health and Human Services, CDC, in 2007, nearly 100 persons per day died of drug overdoses in the United States. In 2008, drug overdoses in the United States caused 36,450 deaths. What's [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T14:01:40+00:00 February 13th, 2012|

Facebook & Self-Esteem: LMS for The Truth

"Using Facebook can be bad for people with low self-esteem," suggests a new study in the journal Psychological Science. Duh? Do we really need a research study to tell us that? Canadian researchers found people with low self-esteem deluge their Facebook friends with negative details about their lives, which makes them less likeable. According to study author Amanda Forest, a graduate student at the University of Waterloo, in Ontario, "If you're talking to somebody in person and you say something, you might get some indication that they don't like it, that they're sick of hearing your negativity," But when people have a negative reaction to a post on Facebook, they tend to keep it to themselves. Guilty. I have kept this one to myself for far too long. As a woman who has worked all her life to build her own self-esteem and has dedicated her work to inspiring and [...]

By Kathleen| 2012-02-12T11:11:03+00:00 February 12th, 2012|