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Mommy, I found your music box!

Happy Mother's Day! The word mother conjures up a vast array of reactions and emotions. For some, mother is synonomous with nurturing and uncondional love and for others (like me) the very mention of that word stirs up a deep longing for what we never got. One thing is certain, the relationship we have (or had) with our mothers has more than any other, shaped us into who we are today and affects every other relationship we have - most importantly - the one we have with ourselves. I never really understood my mother and she died when I was sixteen - long before I had enough life experience or insight to be able to see things from her perspective. But this past year I received a gift - a miracle that was 48 years in the making. We often think of miracles as something huge that happens to us, that is [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T12:23:14+00:00 May 9th, 2014|

Raising Teen Girls in a Social Media World

Social media is everywhere and a huge part of how teens communicate. By the time you finish reading this article, how likely are you to have received a text from your teen? A 2012 Common Sense Media study found that 75 percent of teens have a profile on a social networking site like Facebook; 68 percent text every day and 23 percent use at least two types of social media every day. Those are some pretty significant statistics. But just because it’s common, doesn’t mean it’s good. The same study found that: 57 percent of girls sometimes feel left out after seeing photos of others online 45 percent of girls are concerned about other people posting photos of them 28 percent of girls have edited photos of themselves before posting them Like Dickens’ famous line from A Tale of Two Cities, technology has created both both the best of times [...]

By Kathleen| 2014-05-07T20:11:55+00:00 May 7th, 2014|

Say YES to What’s Next

This morning I sat at Starbucks, sipping my soy latte with pen and journal in hand, (ironically, at that very moment I was writing about the desires of my soul vs. the demands of my ego,) when I glanced up and saw this message on the window: Say YES to what's next! It was the perfect writing prompt and got me thinking about the things that I want to conjure and manifest into my life from a place of pure desire rather than ego that only wants from a sense of lack and unworthiness. The very first thing I said "YES!" to was being open to receive... and with the pump primed, the pen started moving across the page, as if of its own volition and I could barely keep up with my own full-on voracious appetite for everything I desire. We're often taught that we shouldn't be too greedy [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T12:26:12+00:00 May 3rd, 2014|

Bullied: A Tale of Two Girls

There has never been a better time to be a girl... opportunities abound. Yet, there has also never been a worse time to be a girl as so many young women suffer from the pressure to be perfect and are forever attacking themselves and each other in their pursuit of such unrealistic standards. In this video, I share a story about two girls, both being bullied. Two very different choices and two vastly opposite outcomes. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=zF9W4I57QfE How to Take Back Your Power Make a decision... that no one has the power to make you feel like you're not good enough. Practice The Ruby Rule: Others will treat you the way you treat yourself. Start a self-love revolution and focus on everything positive about yourself that makes you YOU! Like attracts like, therefore self-love will bring you more and more love. Tell someone... if you're being bullied, threatened [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T12:28:26+00:00 April 8th, 2014|

Teen Girls and Sex: What’s the Big Deal?

I got an email the other day from a girl named Laurel and she wrote: Dear Kathleen, I am so glad there is someone like you inspiring so many girls out there! I've seen numerous social media posts recently about some girls losing their virginity veerrrry young. One of my friends recently wrote a post about what a big deal it is, and I totally agree. would you talk to us about sex and explain why we should wait till we're older? I've often wondered that myself Not that I'd want to lose my virginity young... But I think it comes into a lot of girls heads and we need someone to talk about the ongoing struggle about thoughts about sex. Why do we have to wait until we're married or until we really love someone? Why do we have to wait until we're older? How come it's such a [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T12:31:29+00:00 February 25th, 2014|

ready… set… WAIT??!! Lessons learned from laying low and watching the world go on without me

Happy Belated New Year! While the rest of the world was celebrating, making resolutions and launching themselves full steam ahead into 2014, I was sick in bed with a chest cold and an injured back. It was a painful 1-2 punch combo in that every time I coughed, my back would go into spasm! Not fun. And it lingered on and on for nearly three weeks. But it was interesting to observe this annual, fresh-start, resolution-making-ritual play out before me and see it from such a different perspective of being unable to participate. My Facebook feed was taunting me with inspirational, starting-anew-quotes and partying pics of friends and family ringing in the New Year. In that moment I had a choice - I could whine, lament and push against it - or - I could let go and accept it as simply my time to just be. (My husband would [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T12:32:38+00:00 January 24th, 2014|

I’m Not Much – But I’m All I Think About: The Selfie Phenomenon

There's a war going on and the battlefield is in our own mind. We are in a perpetual state of conflict. Paradoxically, like an ego maniac with an inferiority complex... We desperately want to be loved and yet we hate ourselves. We suffer from FOMO (Fear Of Missing Out) and yet we isolate. We want to be treated with respect and tolerance and yet we criticize and judge others. And I say "we" because I feel and act that way sometimes too. (and don't even think about denying the fact that you do too!!) All of these conflicted thoughts, feelings and actions - actions that completely contradict what we say we want - are amplified and magnified through social media. The "Selfie" Phenomenon Currently, the hashtag #selfie yields more than 31 million hits on Instagram. The Oxford English Dictionary named selfie Word of the Year and defines it as "a [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T12:37:38+00:00 December 17th, 2013|

my epic fail… and grateful for it all

I would not be able to do the work that I love, the work that I was put here to do... without YOU! I can say that today, fully understanding this connection and the value of having you in my life. But I didn’t always act that way. Let me explain. Several years ago, I hit a wall. My life and my work took a little detour. It was a significant time and it was necessary to pull back in order to recover and heal. But this, in and of itself was not my epic fail. No one goes through life unscathed and everyone at one time or another faces some obstacles on their path. No, my epic fail was believing that I had to be perfect and that I couldn’t share what was going on with me until I had put it all back together again, wrapped up in [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T12:39:02+00:00 November 26th, 2013|

Ask Kat: I Broke Up With a Guy – So Why I Am I So Sad?

Just got this great question from a girl named Nikki and figured I’d share my response to her with other girls who may have been wondering the same thing. I broke up with my bf and I thought I would feel relieved bc I lost my romantic emotions for him, but instead I'm the one bawling my eyes out. It just sucks because I do care about him, he just wasn't “the one” and I feel empty and sad. I feel like I should feel so relieved. Is it normal to feel sad even if I’m the one who left him? Dear Nikki - Of course it’s normal - you're mourning a loss. Even when you make a choice that supports your best and highest good... that doesn't mean that there isn't a time of grieving. Not so much mourning the loss of him... but mourning the loss of what you [...]

By Kathleen| 2013-11-19T21:22:57+00:00 November 19th, 2013|

Boobs, Jugs, Hooters & Tits: The Quest for the Perfect Breasts

This past weekend, I was in South Beach, Miami attending Mama Gena’s Worldwide Sister Goddess Weekend. I felt like I was magnetically pulled there. I somehow found myself on Mama Gena’s website back in July and saw the blurb about the weekend. I clicked the link and signed up without a moment’s hesitation - not knowing really anything about it nor anyone who would be there. I drove across Florida with butterflies in my stomach, feeling this intense resistance going on inside of me - knowing that I had been divinely called here and feeling so much fear at the exact same time. I have never experienced anything like it before in my life. Hundreds of bold, sexy, adventurous, outrageous women all committed to living a life unleashed and out loud. These chicks - young and old, tall and short, thin and chubby - every one of them totally owned [...]

By Kathleen| 2017-03-07T12:40:59+00:00 November 15th, 2013|